Sunday, August 31, 2008

One year since making it official!

Today marks one year since we went to court and asked a judge to make us an official family...one year since we finalized Sophie's adoption! Aren't we lucky that we have all of these neat little anniversaries to celebrate?!

We marked the occasion by going to our favorite Korean restaurant (the same one we visited after the finalization hearing) and had cheesecake at home for our celebration dessert. Today, it was just the three of us and it gave us yet another opportunity to reflect on just how blessed we are and how incredibly happy we are to have our Sophie!

More pictures (then & now):

Sophie last year...

Sophie this year...


With the judge and our attorney at adoption finalization last year...


Finally, an official forever family last year...


With mommy one year later...


With daddy one year later...

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Where do babies come from?

Okay. I can't take credit for this, but I saw this posted by another mom on an adoption forum and I found this article so moving, that I just had to share. According to whomever posted it, this article was written in the summer of 2005 in her local newspaper by a Cathy Fishel.

Babies Come From Unlikely Places

Where do babies come from?
They come from joy and commitment and love and confidence. They come from sadness and want and loneliness and loss of faith. They come from the afternoon or the early, early morning or the dead of night. They come from years of anticipation, and they come unexpectedly, at the worst possible times, in cars and at dinner parties and during ice storms.

Babies come from prescriptions and syringes. They come from frozen test tubes stored in the depths of medical center freezers. They come from strangers who want to give an incredible gift to other strangers. They come from experiments and transplants. Babies come with help and without it, from good judgement and bad. They come from heaven, and sometimes they go right back.

Babies come from contentment. They come from discontent. They come from every continent. They come continuously, without end. Sometimes they never come.

And this week, one baby, one very lucky girl, is coming from China.

In her little life so far, she came to a mother who could not keep her. She came to an orphanage who loved and cared for her, but who wanted to find her a still better place. Her name and little picture came to an adoption agency, who brought them to my brother and sister-in-law. She came into their hearts, then into their arms, and very soon she will come into their home.

This baby, this week, will come to a new town, a new country, and a new family who is giddy to the point of being almost sick with excitement. She will come to a new room of her own, stuffed to the rafters with gifts and clothing from people who love her sight unseen, and to a new swing set, a little cabin, flower gardens and fresh vegetables, and all of the attention she can stand.

She will come to a place where the supply of Cheerios and hugging will never, never dry up. Soon, she will come to Christmas lights and Fourth of July fireworks and birthday candles, more and more every year. She will come to a lacey First Communion dress, sleepovers and toenail painting with best friends, and bargaining with Mom and Dad about curfews and car keys. And in time, she will come to the understanding of what it is to be a daughter, not only of the two parents she sees at the dinner table, but of the two other people whom she will probably never know.

Where do babies come from?
They come from the sadness and want of a mother who must give her flesh and blood away. They come from lonely arms. They come from a lack of faith - or is it belief? - in the future.

But babies also come from the joy and commitment of new parents who never stop looking, no matter how far they have to search. They come from the love and confidence of an extended family who had unfurled its many arms to embrace a little person whom they have never met but love without measure already. Babies come at the worst of times that miraculously, turn into the best of times.

And this week, one baby is literally coming from out of the blue on a summer afternoon from the airport, from China, direct from the arms of an angel.

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Sunday, August 17, 2008

Lovely Weekend

What a great weekend we had! The weather was perfect for all of our planned outdoor activities and we got to spend oodles of time with our friends and family. We are so fortunate to live in such a diverse, interesting city...Friday night, we attended the KC Ethnic Enrichment Festival for the second year in a row. What a blessing it is for Sophie to learn about other cultures and to celebrate being a Korean-American. We watched the Korean Tae Kwon Do demo on the main stage and ate our way around the world, including some very excellent bulgogi and kimchi (staples of Korean food!) While at the festival, we also met up with Charlie, Grandma Gayla and Laney as well as our friends, Trey and Clayton. Such a pleasure to see all of you!

Saturday evening, we went to the KC Chiefs preseason game with our family. Charlie is always so nice to get us tickets to at least one of the games and of course, we were treated to the annual shrimp boil tailgate party...what a great tradition! Sophie did an outstanding job of sticking with our group while tailgating and of watching the entire game like a champ! There was a lot to entertain her and as much as she loves football, she loved hunting down the mascot, KC Wolf even more. We are so lucky that we get to share these things with her!

Hope your weekend was just as lovely as ours...enjoy some of our pictures!

Ethnic Enrichment Festival...





Chiefs Tailgate & Preseason Game...




Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Three.

Today marks 3 months for us on the waiting list for baby #2. As always, we'll keep you posted with any news on the adoption front when we have it! Thanks for your support and encouragement as the wait wears on...

Soapbox

I don't normally get all riled up about matters of the media (at least not publicly). However, a story this morning caught my attention and I thought I could use this recent protest to assert my opinion on the matter.

Apparently, in the soon-to-be released movie, Tropic Thunder, the "R-word" referring to those with mental disabilities is used at least 17 times in one scene, one section of dialogue. There are even being t-shirts printed with quotes using that word to promote the movie. I strongly agree with the disability rights organizations protesting this movie's opening. 17 times is more than a little excessive.

I have always had strong feelings regarding the use of the "R-word," but have recently noticed a surge in its usage just in everyday conversations, music and other entertainment outlets. I've also noticed more and more children using it liberally and nonchalantly...for that, I cringe.

In my experience, as the sister of an extraordinary man with Down Syndrome and as a past parent consultant/event planner for parents of children with disabilities, the "R-word" has very negative connotations. It is a derogatory label used by those who think they are being cute or funny, but let me assure you, it is extremely hurtful to a large community of individuals contributing amazing things to this world. As a child, I fervently defended my brother from childish taunts using that word and unfortunately, I feel as though I need to continue to advocate against its usage.

My rant is not one to discourage you from seeing the movie. See it. Draw your own conclusions. My main goal is to challenge you to ban the use of the "R-word" in your own household. My challenge is for you to raise your children to respect ALL people from ALL walks of life. My challenge is for you to come up with more intelligent ways of addressing others. At the very least, be mindful that some words, labels and "jokes" could be hurtful to others.

Thank you for allowing me to address this heated topic. I realize that I am mostly "preaching to the choir" however, it is a good reminder to all of us to lead others by our positive example. If you are interested in the article outlining the protest of the movie, click on this link:
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080811/film_nm/boycott_disability_dc